AMINU Mohammed Simpa has the dexterity of a capable man but he is not
strong enough to satisfy his wife, Afusat in bed. His inability has affected
the peace once enjoyed in their Ajibose Street, Agege, Lagos home.
Saturday Sun gathered that for over 13 years, the 51-year-old indigene
of Obangade, Kogi State, has not gone more than one round of sex with his
wife, Afusat, a constant cause of quarrel in the middle of the night . Sex
is now a luxury for them. Anytime they are going to have it, they have to
plan it. The wife would have informed the husband beforehand so that he
would not stress himself during the day. At the end of all preparations,
Simpa will still not go more than one round.
This has brought crisis into what once seems to be a happy union. Afusat,
44, complains of not getting satisfaction every time they make love.As a
woman, she told Saturday Sun, she expects at least three rounds of sex
from her husband.
“I expect my husband to be able to take me to orgasm whenever I wish to
make love to him. But no, that is not the case; instead he would stop at
one round breathing as if he just climbed a mountain. It is unacceptable.
But I understand his predicament,” Afusat stated.
Trouble started for the father of four when he had accident while on
duty at Glaxosmithkline, Ilupeju Lagos State. According to him, he was
injured above his pelvis and was operated upon. The operation from the
injury he claimed affected his performance as a man.
How I became partially impotent
Narrating his ordeal, Simpa, recalled how he went to work in May 2003 on
morning shift as a security officer with his former employer. “That day, I
was on morning shift, to close work around 2pm. My supervisor, Mr. Wilson
Oyedele, who was on afternoon shift that day delayed me and asked me
to work with the people on afternoon shift because there were few people
working on afternoon shift”, he stated.
“I was told to work from 2pm and close by 5pm,” he continued, adding
“that day loading started around 5pm and the gate to the warehouse was
faulty to the extent that we used plank to suspend it when we open and
close it. I was in a hurry to go home because I did not inform my family
that I would be coming back late from work. The boy offloading was too
slow for my liking so I went to assist him, in the process I was hit by the
bad gate.”
His frustration
Simpa is in pain. He is not only suffering from his inability to satisfy his
wife but also from how a company he worked for, for 15 years treated
him after he sustained the injury. He was taken care of by the company
during his stay in the hospital but was laid off some months later because
he asked for compensation.
“In a place of work when an employee gets injured, they compensate them
, but they did not do that, I wrote a letter to management while I was
working there but my supervisor said that I am still working with them
and I want them to compensate me. He told them to put my name in the
retrenchment list in 2005."
When I went back to work on the 20th of June, after four months they
released the retrenchment list and told me that my service was no longer
needed, I went to meet them and they said that they wanted to reduce
the number of staff.”
Simpa said effort to get the hospital remove the iron attached to his body
has been futile since the hospital has not had any communication from
Glaxosmithkline to commence treatment on him. Therefore, he resorted to
taking painkillers and self-medication to survive while waiting for the
company.
“I have been to hospital but they refused to treat me. Even the human
resource officer that no longer works there told me that if I am not given
a letter, I would not be treated. I even went to meet the doctor that
operated on me at LUTH, but he told me to pay N5,000 before he would
attend to me or recommend drugs that I would take. What I have been
doing since then is to engage in one job or another then use the money to
buy Ampiclox , Vitamin C, Panadol and pain relieving drugs to relieve the
pains.”
His wife’s lamentation
If Afusat could turn back the hands of time, she would definitely want
those days that her husband was satisfying her sexual needs. Since that is
no longer possible, all she could do now is to complain and bear it as her
cross. Her words “I take solace in the fact that I already had four
children before the incident. If not so, I would not have taken it easy
with him. How can a man not have strength to do more than one round. It
is not good. If he finishes one round he would be looking for sleep to
regain strength.
“Several times, I have complained, even got angry with him despite
knowing what happened to him. Before the accident, he was agile and I
was always praying that no woman should have sex with him because he
knows how to satisfy a woman.”
According to her, she has tried all she could to improve her husband’s
condition. She has introduced him to local herb popularly called ‘Afato’.
“As a man of peace, he would console me and plead with me that things
will improve. I have tried to help him improve it. Sometimes I would buy
him drinks or tell him not to work much, yet it would always resolve to the
same thing,” she stated.
When Saturday Sun visited Glaxosmithkline to verify Simpa’s claims, this
reporter was directed to the company’s public relations agent, one Mrs
Omolara Shittu of Brooks and Blake. The agent asked the reporter to send
an email to her. The first mail was sent to her on 17th of June and the
second one on July 2nd, but as at press time, no response has come from
her.
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